In Jamaica, we have a proverb that goes:
” A nuh ebru kin teet a laugh” – That can be translated to say “Not every smile is a laugh”. It means, not every one who smiles with you is genuine, nor are they your true friend.
As I grow older, I’ve learned the word “friend” is a heavy title and not everyone around us that we have known for years, are our true friends. These people have a way of revealing their true nature as times goes by, and it’s important to know who they are earlier than later, as the effects might be less severe. If you have a group of friends, at least one of those people, is a fake friend and we will help you to spot the Fake Friend in your Friends Group.
5 Ways to Spot a Fake Friend in Your Friends Group
They Compete with you: This is one of the easiest ways to spot a fake friend. There are people who who naturally competitive because they just enjoy wining as it’s a part of their personality, but then you have the fake friend. In this case, you can spot this fake as they are the one who always tries to “one up you”. If you purchase a 2020 car, they purchase a 2021 car. Sometimes they don’t need the thing nor can they afford it, but they do it anyway because they feel they deserve to shine too.
They Never Make Commitments: Have you ever been in a friends group and there is one person who never makes plans or can ever hold up their end of a bargain? Yup! That’s the fake friend. This situation is extremely exhausting as sometimes you need that one person to offer that extra support to push you one step further. Whether it’s agreeing to show up to help with a move, plan an outing or even promising to call back, they are never available or make any effort to do so.
They Don’t Respect You: They say “variety” is the spice of life but this friend does not care. One of the things that make life beautiful and interesting, is how different we are. For this friend, there is no middle ground, nor is there “agree to disagree” mindset. They constantly disagree with you and do their best to show you up in public places and situations. They will argue with you for days and never feel they need to apologise.
They Always Play the Victim: This one hit the nail on the head as I’ve had this type of friend, and sis was draining and sucked all the life out of everything. This type of friend never takes responsibility for their actions, they use the “pity card” to their full advantage and everybody else (except them) is at fault and people should always feel sorry for them. This one is all on them as how do you walk around blaming people and never see your self as being faulty at times? I’ll leave this one for you all to decide.
The Clout Chaser: ” Back in my day”, we would call this “fair weather friend” as they are only around when things are good with you and they know they can gain something. This something can be a thing like money or free products or even fame. This type of friend mainly hangs around people who are on the rise and always have something to gain. They show up as helpful and supportive when they know things are good, but the minute things are bad, they move on to the next person they can gain from.
A friendship should be a meaningful type of platonic relationship where both party meets the needs of the other in a real way that can make life easier. If you are in a friendship that feels strained, one-sided and even toxic, chances are, there is a fake friend among you and this person must be watched as they can be detrimental to your well-being.
Have you had a fake friend? How did you deal with them? Comment below
#5 Ways to Spot a Fake Friend in Your Friends Group
#5 Ways to Spot a Fake Friend in Your Friends Group
#5 Ways to Spot a Fake Friend in Your Friends Group
#5 Ways to Spot a Fake Friend in Your Friends Group
